How To Be A Leader For Your Nanny Kids

Whether you are a nanny, caretaker or a SAHM learning how to lead kids effectively is important. Whether you’re wanting to lead your kids to practice a healthy lifestyle, increase communication, or something else, good leadership is a way to reach your goals with the children in your care.

Set an Example

You’ve probably heard “lead by example,” but that means more than just doing something and hoping your kids will notice and copy your behavior. It also means being deliberate in setting an example, and you’ll need to refrain from certain behaviors and watch what you say.

For instance, if you want your children to be patient with others – a key leadership attribute – then take care that you’re patient with them. If you want your children to be able to make decisions like a leader, then make sure you’re not making all of their decisions for them. My nanny kids love eating at Subway so when we go, I encourage them to order their own sandwiches and instruct the cashier on how they like their fixings. To lead by example, you need to think about more than just living out healthy, positive lifestyle choices (although that’s important, too). It’s also a matter of setting an example of how to treat others.

Include Them

Whether you are a teacher (Nannies are also teachers in my book) or a parent, including the children in your care is important to instill leadership. How do you include them? For one thing, let them help. This might take the form of collecting toys off of the floor and picking out new toys to play with next. Students might be allowed to write an assignment on the board. At home, parents, let your kids be a part of your daily routine, helping you wash the car and clean the house. After all, these are life skills, and those are vital for good leadership.


Good leaders know how to delegate responsibilities and tasks. In your home or when nannying, give kids various responsibilities. You can set things up so that the children in your care have a task to complete, and they have to delegate tasks to others to get it done. Alternatively, simply explain the task, and give a job to each child to work on. They will see the value of delegating (you might want to point out that you can’t do this task alone), but they will also have the satisfaction of helping get something done.

Allow Them to Help Others

Wherever you can, let your kids help each other without being bossy. Teach them how to help others in an appropriate way, and then set up a scenario where that help can happen. This works in the classroom or at home with friends and/or siblings.

What are some ways you instill leadership qualities in your kids?